autore: dott.ssa Susanna Murray
Molte coppie che vedo in studio, nonostante vengano in consulenza per svariati motivi, prima o poi si fermano al nodo centrale delle loro difficoltà: il conflitto legato alle loro diversità.I partners entrano in una guerra spesso esplicitata in un braccio di ferro su chi “ha ragione”, perdendo di vista quanto invece possa essere arricchente la diversità dell’altro.Non riconoscere l’altro, le sue peculiarità, il suo modo di essere e di rapportarsi alla realtà impedisce che nella coppia avvenga una reale comunicazione e conoscenza di chi sia davvero il proprio compagno o compagna. Ma perché tante difficoltà ad accept the other?
When you fall in love at first often we tend to idealize their partner and to give it only merits and the idea that the "right" person, able to understand and amarci.Tolto the fact that this may be true, it is necessary However, be aware that this is not the person we love will love us and we will include in the manner that we expect: everyone has his own way and tends to write what he would like to have and which received significant relationships in her life until at that time (ex-partners, parents, siblings, relatives, etc.).. Understand that we have more or less conscious individual expectations against the person imagine that on our side, we must help them to recognize that sometimes it is our partners that we disappointed, but it is the fantasy that our needs can be met in full, which must break with reality: Sometimes our wounds can not be remedied by whom we love and sometimes we must refrain from claiming that we had in passato.E always remember that the couple's relationship is an important occasion in everyone's life, often therapeutic, if you lived in a constructive manner. 
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